Zsuzsanna Egry
Zsuzsanna Egry is a
Certified Parenting By Connection Instructor, living and working in Hungary.
She is the mother of three children of ages 9, 7, and almost 3.
After having traveled and worked as a volunteer in Swaziland, France, and Ireland for several social, cultural and environmental NGOs, she became a single mother and discovered how difficult it was to be a parent. “No matter how hard I was trying to do it well, it all seemed to be going wrong. The love that my baby boy and I had for each other was just not manifesting in our relationship.” It was at this point that she discovered Parenting by Connection. Following the suggestions in the articles on the Hand in Hand website – especially insisting on getting laughter going – she started to completely turn the situation around. Now, after getting married and having two more children, she says, “At the beginning, the Parenting by Connection tools were my survival kit: it saved my marriage, helped my kids get along much better, and helped me survive the intense hard emotions that I used to have - and still have at times. Now, it is a way of life that brings lots of fun, joy, love, and many moments of grace into our lives, and that makes the challenges and difficult moments a lot easier to handle. I know that I have the tools to bring us back to a connected family life, and I love sharing the ‘how’, especially the playful "how", with other parents, so love can freely flow in their families." |
On Saturday 7th of February 2015 bween 9:30 - 15:30 in Rzeszów, Poland Workshop: The gift of "NO" - setting loving limits with children Setting limits with our children is one of the hardest challenges we face as parents. They do need to wash their theeth, go to bed at a certain time, do their homework, and stop watching TV or playing on the computer. We need to set limits for their benefit, however, our ideas of what is beneficial for them may be very different from theirs. At this point in the scenario, we start by convincing, move on to bribes or threats, and often end up shouting and doing the things we swore to never do to our kids. Often, to avoid all the heated emotions, we give in - against our better judgement - only to find our kids do something so unaccaptable that we really need to intervene. "But you just had another package of gummy bears, why do you behave like this?" we think in despair. Fortunately, limits - firm limits - can be set with love and warmth without any agression on our part. There is a new paradigm in thinking about setting limits offered by the Parenting by Connection approach, that is beyond the concepts of "win-or-lose" and manipulation. In this one day workshop, we will introduce a step-by-step process of setting firm loving limits, as a result of which our relationship with our kids do not erode when we set limits, but on the contrary, it brings more closeness and love. We will look at: - how emotions work - why "off track", limit breaking behaviour occurs - how to set limits through play and laughter - a 3-step process of setting firm and loving limits.         |
